After such an emotional time God came in swiftly the same day to show me nothing is too hard for him and he would use the people in my life to bless me.
Re: lack of money to buy funeral ticket for my aunt's husband: GOD used my bff jackie to bless me. We were talking and she asked me how i was and I told her Uh ..I could be better and explained what was wrong. Immediately she said I will buy your ticket if you want. After ensuring she was sure she could because she just bought a new house and has her own responsibilities. She said, "Defiantly that's what sisters are for." Tears trickled down my face.
Re: lack of money for transportation: GOD used my hubby. He said didn't have much money but of course he would buy my transportation ticket to last me.
God's favor is absolutely awesome! Next week I will call about my taxes and I'm sure this will be another blessing.
Immediately one of my fav song from church comes to mind: You Are for Me by Kari Jobe
Grace Card Monday: May 3
Support:Expect help. A Divine power more magnificent than anything else that exists on the planet is ready to support our every move.
Dance: When we ask for guidance, take action, and put our faith in an outcome we can't yet see, we've begun to dance with grace.
Silence: Be still. A daily practice of silence bears gifts-a heightened sensitivity to beauty, deep inner peace, and a profound feeling of connectedness to all living things
(wow) This is clearly talking about my financial situation. I need to trust that God is more than able and he wants to help me and bless me and I need to praise him before i see the outcome of everything because he has already made a way. i need to take time to be still and know he is God. This is absolutely Awesome! (Huge smile)
Dance: When we ask for guidance, take action, and put our faith in an outcome we can't yet see, we've begun to dance with grace.
Silence: Be still. A daily practice of silence bears gifts-a heightened sensitivity to beauty, deep inner peace, and a profound feeling of connectedness to all living things
(wow) This is clearly talking about my financial situation. I need to trust that God is more than able and he wants to help me and bless me and I need to praise him before i see the outcome of everything because he has already made a way. i need to take time to be still and know he is God. This is absolutely Awesome! (Huge smile)
Emotional Time
Ive had a rough financial weekend when it comes to news : 1. I owe state taxes 2012.00 to be the exact and with a one person income I cannot afford to pay that right now. The bill came and they didn't talk about an installment plan (after some research I see that you can request an installment but you have to substiante your expenses...something tells me they won't except $20 monthly) 2. my aunt's husband died (i wasn't close to him hence I didn't say uncle but I need to go to MD for the funeral and I cant afford to pay for that seeing my account has $25 in it). Thankfully after rent I only bought a few groceries or otherwise I would've had the $25 since after paying rent it left me with $80. 3. my monthly mta transportation card expired today and i still need to get to work Tuesday through next Wed.
I am trying to not worry about money and hold onto faith that God knows what we have need of and will take care of me but the transportation thing almost has me in tears. It's like when it rains it pours.
I am trying to not worry about money and hold onto faith that God knows what we have need of and will take care of me but the transportation thing almost has me in tears. It's like when it rains it pours.
Coach Carolyn messages that spoke to me-week of April 26th
Be The Best You!
When everybody tells you that you are being idealistic or impractical, consider the possibility that everybody could be wrong about what is right for you.” ~ Gilbert Kaplan
This speaks directly to the fourth agreement: Always Do Your BestI believe that we all strive to do the best that we know how to do and be the best that we can be. It would never serve you or anyone to wake up in the morning and say, “Now how can I absolutely screw up and be the worst me I can be!”I may not know you personally, but I can guess you don’t say this. Especially if you are reading this blog, I can guess that you strive to be your bestest. Never settle for less than your best.You are a child of the Divine – be that!
When everybody tells you that you are being idealistic or impractical, consider the possibility that everybody could be wrong about what is right for you.” ~ Gilbert Kaplan
This speaks directly to the fourth agreement: Always Do Your BestI believe that we all strive to do the best that we know how to do and be the best that we can be. It would never serve you or anyone to wake up in the morning and say, “Now how can I absolutely screw up and be the worst me I can be!”I may not know you personally, but I can guess you don’t say this. Especially if you are reading this blog, I can guess that you strive to be your bestest. Never settle for less than your best.You are a child of the Divine – be that!
Quotes from a fellow member
I met this woman in a BWP meeting a month or so ago who was inspired with Carey and I Sacred Friday's and asked if I could send her the word and she could do reflection on her own. Of course I said yes and in turn she sends me quotes since it seems we both share a love of quotes so below is some things she has sent me:
"We conquer fear by doing what we fear to do"
"To live is a rare thing to do...most people exist that is all"
"Many things may capture your heart, but only few will capture your heart...those are the ones worth keeping!"
Life is a challenge...meet it!
Life is a dream...realize it!
Life is love...enjoy it!
"We conquer fear by doing what we fear to do"
"To live is a rare thing to do...most people exist that is all"
"Many things may capture your heart, but only few will capture your heart...those are the ones worth keeping!"
Life is a challenge...meet it!
Life is a dream...realize it!
Life is love...enjoy it!
Chapter 1-End the Legacy of Deprivation
What stuck out at me in this chapter is the pattern of self-neglect that I have. Cheryl says in this pattern instead of asking yourself what you need, you shift into overdrive and immerse yourself in the needs of others. Cheryl says its time to put an end into this legacy of deprivation! I wholeheartedly agree.
As I continue to read, Cheryl explores the word deprivation and says its a place when you automatically focus on others' needs, avoid talking about yourself, and am the first one to lend an hand when someone else needs a lift-but now you are tired-exhausted. really-and fed up with being a martyr.
Additionally, Cheryl says awareness is a powerful catalyst for positive change (powerful to me and so true). Once you realize how deprived you are you need to put Extreme Self Care into practice. Cheryl started with clearing her plate by letting go of almost 50% of what she was working on to give her the emotional and physical space. She gave herself more breathing room than she thought she needed. She started to ask for help in spite if how difficult and awkward it felt.
Cheryl says overgiving us a sign of deprivation as well-a signal that a need isn't being met, an emotion isn't being expressed and a void isn't getting filled,
Cheryl asks the question-In what ways are you starving yourself in what you need to live a rich anfulfilling life. Since awareness in and of itself inspires change, Cheryl challenges to spend the next 30 days becoming skilled at the ways, big and small, that I deprive myself of what i need, Rather than feel like a victim to something outside of myself, when realizing I am responsible for overgiving I can empower myself to do something about it. After all I am the one that overbooks ,my schedule or make sneeds of others a priority. The guilt in owning this reality so that i own the power to change it.
with right away:
Cheryl lists common complaints and two of them I identified
-When you catch yourself saying things such as "I never have time to do what I really want to do."what I'm really saying is "I don't take time for my needs."
-When you insist, "I always up doing everything myself," the truth of what I'm really saying is "I don't as for help."
The choices we make either honor our Extreme Self_Care or they leave us feeling deprived.
Extreme Self Care Challenge: Discovering Where You Feel Deprived.
This challenge is a call to consciousness-becoming more keenly aware of how, when and where you feel deprived. Everyday this month whenever I feel overwhelmed, frustrated, burdened, or resentful, stop and ask myself?
Where do I feel deprived?
What do I need more of right now?
What do I need less of?
What do I want right now?
What am I yearning for?
Who or what is causing me to feel resentful and why?
What am I starving for?
These answers will help you identify the areas of your life that are calling for greater consciousness, an increase in your awareness of what needs to change to keep you from feeling deprived. In doing this exercise its important to be specific about your needs,. Being introspective and taking time to to arrive at my answers thoughtfully will allow me to gain greater clarity about what my soul needs most to no longer feeling deprived. Cheryl gave me so examples that I def can add to my list (lol! they are my lists until I ponder more).
-Getting more and better sleep
-Developing a creative outlet (which i think will happen in my expressive art and my artists dates)
-Creating more soul-nourishing friendships.
-Considering ways to embrace life more.
-Taking a brisk walk in nature everyday where I can feel at peace in God's creation and take in the beauty/Taking more trips on the weekend to submerge myself in God's beauty (beaches/parks/gardens etc).
-I feel deprived of money to do those things i enjoy and not living from paycheck to paycheck.
-I feel deprived of solitary, uninterrupted time.
Becoming aware of how i experience deprivation in my life is critical to making the changes required to achieve optimal wellness and happiness. Keep your inner antenna finely tuned to what you need.
As I continue to read, Cheryl explores the word deprivation and says its a place when you automatically focus on others' needs, avoid talking about yourself, and am the first one to lend an hand when someone else needs a lift-but now you are tired-exhausted. really-and fed up with being a martyr.
Additionally, Cheryl says awareness is a powerful catalyst for positive change (powerful to me and so true). Once you realize how deprived you are you need to put Extreme Self Care into practice. Cheryl started with clearing her plate by letting go of almost 50% of what she was working on to give her the emotional and physical space. She gave herself more breathing room than she thought she needed. She started to ask for help in spite if how difficult and awkward it felt.
Cheryl says overgiving us a sign of deprivation as well-a signal that a need isn't being met, an emotion isn't being expressed and a void isn't getting filled,
Cheryl asks the question-In what ways are you starving yourself in what you need to live a rich anfulfilling life. Since awareness in and of itself inspires change, Cheryl challenges to spend the next 30 days becoming skilled at the ways, big and small, that I deprive myself of what i need, Rather than feel like a victim to something outside of myself, when realizing I am responsible for overgiving I can empower myself to do something about it. After all I am the one that overbooks ,my schedule or make sneeds of others a priority. The guilt in owning this reality so that i own the power to change it.
with right away:
Cheryl lists common complaints and two of them I identified
-When you catch yourself saying things such as "I never have time to do what I really want to do."what I'm really saying is "I don't take time for my needs."
-When you insist, "I always up doing everything myself," the truth of what I'm really saying is "I don't as for help."
The choices we make either honor our Extreme Self_Care or they leave us feeling deprived.
Extreme Self Care Challenge: Discovering Where You Feel Deprived.
This challenge is a call to consciousness-becoming more keenly aware of how, when and where you feel deprived. Everyday this month whenever I feel overwhelmed, frustrated, burdened, or resentful, stop and ask myself?
Where do I feel deprived?
What do I need more of right now?
What do I need less of?
What do I want right now?
What am I yearning for?
Who or what is causing me to feel resentful and why?
What am I starving for?
These answers will help you identify the areas of your life that are calling for greater consciousness, an increase in your awareness of what needs to change to keep you from feeling deprived. In doing this exercise its important to be specific about your needs,. Being introspective and taking time to to arrive at my answers thoughtfully will allow me to gain greater clarity about what my soul needs most to no longer feeling deprived. Cheryl gave me so examples that I def can add to my list (lol! they are my lists until I ponder more).
-Getting more and better sleep
-Developing a creative outlet (which i think will happen in my expressive art and my artists dates)
-Creating more soul-nourishing friendships.
-Considering ways to embrace life more.
-Taking a brisk walk in nature everyday where I can feel at peace in God's creation and take in the beauty/Taking more trips on the weekend to submerge myself in God's beauty (beaches/parks/gardens etc).
-I feel deprived of money to do those things i enjoy and not living from paycheck to paycheck.
-I feel deprived of solitary, uninterrupted time.
Becoming aware of how i experience deprivation in my life is critical to making the changes required to achieve optimal wellness and happiness. Keep your inner antenna finely tuned to what you need.
Introduction to the book-Extreme Self Care
I got this wonderful book for Christmas by Cheryl Richardson called "The Art of Extreme Self Care" Transform Your Life One Month at a Time. I could relate to it so much that I inhaled the book and when I got to Chapter 3 I realized the chapters needed to be read once a month (I guess I f didn't notice in the title one month at a time)so I told myself when I made time to do this I would.Since it's May I figured what better time than this. Because I am in the transformation journey in my life. The book grabbed my attention in the Introduction pages. The things Cheryl said spoke to me so loud that I knew this book was exactly what I needed to read at this time in my life.
-Extreme Self care meant taking my care to a whole new level. Taking radical action to improve my life and engaging in daily habits that allowed me to maintain this new standard of living. Schedule time for myself (on my calendar, in ink) everyday for 6 months.
-Extreme Self Care involved surrounding myself with people who were smart, self-aware, and only interested in two-way relationships. It meant taking bold steps, such as eliminating clutter from my life, for good; creating soul nourishing work and home environment and keeping it that way;getting my financial act together so that I always had choices about how to live my life and not making any commitments whatsoever out of guilt or obligation.
-Extreme Self Care-real pleasure is not a massage every couple of months, an occasional bath, or a yearly vacation. It means leaving work in the middle of the day to get out into nature, enjoying a great massage once a week, and developing daily habits that make me feel happy and nurtured, including listening to the music I love, drinking my favorite tea, or ordering fresh flowers for my office. Even if all of this doesn't sound idealistic we have to discover that "a great life starts with an open mind."
-To incorporate Self Care into my life, internal changes need to be made to make the behaviors stick. I needed to quit being a martyr and focus on getting my needs met. I had to stop expecting others to read my mind and start being direct about what I wanted. I was challenged to try asking for help long before i needed it.begin to ask people to share the load instead of being an hero by attempting to do it all by myself. I have to sop being an automatic yes machine when people asked for my help and instead learn to say no with confidence and ease.
THE Rewards of Extreme Self Care
-To live an authentic meaningful life, I need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won't like me. It may not be easy but its essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs..
-I need to accept no less than the highest possible standards-be it for work, relationships, health, or overall well-being.
-Extreme Self care forces us to make choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of our soul.
-The choice to live a life that reflects the tenants of Extreme Self Care is critical if we want to make a difference in the world
-Enjoying a life of Extreme Self Care means living and working in a soul-nurturing environment; developing a greater appreciation for, and connection with, nature; doing work that provides an opportunity to express your greatest connection with, nature; doing work that provides an opportunity to express your greatest gifts ad talents; and caring for your emotional, physical, and spiritual health in a way that's aligned with who you are and you most need.
-The art of Extreme Self-Care takes patience, commitment, and practice.
-Extreme Self care meant taking my care to a whole new level. Taking radical action to improve my life and engaging in daily habits that allowed me to maintain this new standard of living. Schedule time for myself (on my calendar, in ink) everyday for 6 months.
-Extreme Self Care involved surrounding myself with people who were smart, self-aware, and only interested in two-way relationships. It meant taking bold steps, such as eliminating clutter from my life, for good; creating soul nourishing work and home environment and keeping it that way;getting my financial act together so that I always had choices about how to live my life and not making any commitments whatsoever out of guilt or obligation.
-Extreme Self Care-real pleasure is not a massage every couple of months, an occasional bath, or a yearly vacation. It means leaving work in the middle of the day to get out into nature, enjoying a great massage once a week, and developing daily habits that make me feel happy and nurtured, including listening to the music I love, drinking my favorite tea, or ordering fresh flowers for my office. Even if all of this doesn't sound idealistic we have to discover that "a great life starts with an open mind."
-To incorporate Self Care into my life, internal changes need to be made to make the behaviors stick. I needed to quit being a martyr and focus on getting my needs met. I had to stop expecting others to read my mind and start being direct about what I wanted. I was challenged to try asking for help long before i needed it.begin to ask people to share the load instead of being an hero by attempting to do it all by myself. I have to sop being an automatic yes machine when people asked for my help and instead learn to say no with confidence and ease.
THE Rewards of Extreme Self Care
-To live an authentic meaningful life, I need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won't like me. It may not be easy but its essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs..
-I need to accept no less than the highest possible standards-be it for work, relationships, health, or overall well-being.
-Extreme Self care forces us to make choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of our soul.
-The choice to live a life that reflects the tenants of Extreme Self Care is critical if we want to make a difference in the world
-Enjoying a life of Extreme Self Care means living and working in a soul-nurturing environment; developing a greater appreciation for, and connection with, nature; doing work that provides an opportunity to express your greatest connection with, nature; doing work that provides an opportunity to express your greatest gifts ad talents; and caring for your emotional, physical, and spiritual health in a way that's aligned with who you are and you most need.
-The art of Extreme Self-Care takes patience, commitment, and practice.
Life Makeover 2010: Messages to Change My World
Topic of the Week
Movers & Shakers
I've just finished teaching our third Movers & Shakers workshop with Reid Tracy, President of Hay House Publishing, and it was a life-changing weekend for all of us. Before I head home, I thought I'd stop and share some of the wisdom we taught to a diverse audience of change agents. Here are ten messages. Find one that speaks to you!
1. It takes ten years to be an overnight success.
2. The most competent people often feel the most insecure when starting something new.
3. Frustration and impatience are often clues that something new is trying to be born.
4. Develop sensitivity to how you come across to others so you become very, very attractive (in the magnetic sort of way ☺).
5. Be sure your professional image projects the essence of who you are. Think: "a well-groomed and polished you!"
6. Don't let your current success strangle you and stop you from pursuing your next evolutionary step.
7. Become a star in your own backyard.
8. Commit to being of service first. In all your interactions keep the mantra, "How can I help you?" firmly rooted in your mind.
9. Don't let overanalyzing, future planning, or what-ifs, get in the way of taking action.
10. When you own your gifts you set yourself free to change the world.
Take Action Challenge
Choose the one message that speaks to you the most, cut and paste it into a document, and print it out. Then hang it in your office and let it inspire you to grow ☺.
The one message that spoke to me the loudest is:
Don't let overanalyzing, future planning, or what-ifs, get in the way of taking action.
Movers & Shakers
I've just finished teaching our third Movers & Shakers workshop with Reid Tracy, President of Hay House Publishing, and it was a life-changing weekend for all of us. Before I head home, I thought I'd stop and share some of the wisdom we taught to a diverse audience of change agents. Here are ten messages. Find one that speaks to you!
1. It takes ten years to be an overnight success.
2. The most competent people often feel the most insecure when starting something new.
3. Frustration and impatience are often clues that something new is trying to be born.
4. Develop sensitivity to how you come across to others so you become very, very attractive (in the magnetic sort of way ☺).
5. Be sure your professional image projects the essence of who you are. Think: "a well-groomed and polished you!"
6. Don't let your current success strangle you and stop you from pursuing your next evolutionary step.
7. Become a star in your own backyard.
8. Commit to being of service first. In all your interactions keep the mantra, "How can I help you?" firmly rooted in your mind.
9. Don't let overanalyzing, future planning, or what-ifs, get in the way of taking action.
10. When you own your gifts you set yourself free to change the world.
Take Action Challenge
Choose the one message that speaks to you the most, cut and paste it into a document, and print it out. Then hang it in your office and let it inspire you to grow ☺.
The one message that spoke to me the loudest is:
Christ's Love-An Engagement Story I read
OMG! I am in tears. I just read of my husband's friends engagement story: http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleid=5122974231704203&pid=8789033&MsdVisit=1
It was absolutely beautiful. Ive actually never known anyone personally who is a Christian incorporate their faith into their proposal. I love this proposal..it has to be one of my favorites.
It was absolutely beautiful. Ive actually never known anyone personally who is a Christian incorporate their faith into their proposal. I love this proposal..it has to be one of my favorites.
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