Dare to Dream

The below is a posting from Coach Carolyn website from last week that made an impact on me: I'll let you read it and then comment later

Dare to Dream...Then Dare to Act

"Don't let go of your dreams. If you have determination and belief in your dreams, you will succeed in spite of your desire to let go.” ~ Catherine Pulsifer

A man lay on his bed at the end of his life waiting to die.His dream came to pay his last respects and bid farewell to the man who had never used it.As it entered the room the man looked down in shame.

"Why did you not realize me?" the dream asked.

"Because I was afraid," the man said.

"Afraid of what," said the dream.

"I was afraid I would fail."

"But haven't you failed by not attempting to use me?"

"Yes I did, but I always thought there would be tomorrow."

"You Fool!" said the dream. “Did it never occur to you that there was only ever today; the moment that you are in right now? Do you think that now that death is here that you can put it off until tomorrow?"

"No," said the man, a tear gently rolling down his cheek.

The dream was softer now. It knew there were two types of pain: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret; and while discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs pounds.Then the dream leaned forward to gently wipe away the tear and said, "You need only have taken the first step and I would have taken one to meet you, for the only thing that ever separated us was the belief in your mind that you couldn't have me.”

Then they said goodbye and they both died.

~ Anonymous

"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it." ~ Goethe

Dare to live your dreams!

When I read about this it made me think of something I read before: "Don't die with the music still inside of you." What a story! How many of us die with our dreams inside because we didn't take the first step. For all of those out here who know what their dream is and haven't made a step forward due to fear or not knowing where to start or for financial reasons. Just start no matter how small. God will let you know if you are on the right path and tell you how to proceed ahead. As for me, sadly to say I don't know what my dream is ..what God has purposed for me but I am to keep forging ahead on this road of empowerment and encouragement because I have a feeling this may be part of it. I'm not going to give up until I find my dream because every journey starts with a single step.

Magnificence

Sacred Friday is where a word is picked from a bowl that Carey and I discuss how that word applies to our week. This time has deeply enriched our friendship through the distance. So now that you know what Sacred Friday is I can go right into my word.

Sacred Friday-Magnificence

Magnificence spoke to my soul in the form of quotes:

Beautiful music is the art of the prophets that can calm the agitations of the soul; it is one of the most magnificent and delightful presents God has given us

If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page.

This magnificent butterfly finds a little heap of dirt and sits still on it; but man will never on his heap of mud keep still...

Only if you have been in the deepest valley, can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain.

"The past is never completely lost, however extensive the devastation. Your sorrows are the bricks and mortar of a magnificent temple. What you are today and what you will be tomorrow are because of what you have been."


I think its no wonder these particular quotes spoke to my soul its all about realizing you are participating and not the spectator and sometimes you have to stand still to find out what direction you need to go in and once you know make that single step. Sometimes we look so forward to whats ahead we don't even want to think about the bad that happened in our past but its so key to who we are today and in the end we will be magnificent because of who God made us to be.

I feel like I'm encountering a 3:20 decade as well...a church home, a wonderful enriching marriage that I'm learning more to not focus on the few (very few things that I'm not getting) but the abundance I have through J, getting fit spiritually, physically, and emotionally. The magnificent work that God continuously does in the lives of people I know is amazing! God is Magnificent!! So in closing the song Magnificent by Hillsong http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QnHlBxmZzvg seems appropriate. !

Friday's Purposeful Question

Coach Carolyn has a question every Friday called Friday's Purposeful Question so this Friday's Purposeful Question said:

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
“What’s the story you tell everyday?”
You can tell whether a woman is clever by her answers. You can tell whether she is wise by her questions.” ~ attributed to Naguib Mahfouz

Oh Coach Carolyn why do you stump me? I hope the story I tell everyday is one of joy and encouragement. I'm a "smiley person" so I hope that my energy is rubbing off on the people I come across and I become God's hands on the earth.

2nd Meetup of the Year

I was so looking forward to this meetup especially since the last one hyped me up and honestly I haven't done anything with it but when i woke up Sat with a scratchy throat and dizziness I wasn't sure i was going to make it but I thought I would at least push through and start my day as planned (gym, womens group, another meetup group activity). But after the gym I felt worse body aches, chills. etc so needless to say I missed the meetup:(


Create Your New Story

In order to release an old limiting story, you need to replace it with a new empowering one.
So, let's create a new story! It can be as big as you want it to be; but it must be truly believable and authentic for you - or you won't live into it.
Bring your journals and along with guided meditations, I will guide you into creating your new story

1st Meetup of the Year

The first meetup of the new year (2nd meetup for this group) I attended for Becoming A Women of Purpose was held on Feb. 13th. The below was the intro.

Change Your Story, Change Your Life

What's your story?
If you are sticking with your victim story; your story of drama and lack, then don't be surprised if you see more of that in your life.
Yes, horrible things happen in our lives. Yet, we must process it appropriately so that we can grow and move on from it.
When we are dealing with a devastating tragedy or trauma, we need to tell our story until it isn't our story anymore.
That is when we can write a new story -- a new story of peace, forgiveness, wholeness and faith. This will be the story that we live out.
Come and write your new stories! Bring your journals - I will supply the pens!


Initially when i saw this intro i sigh and was thinking i don't see myself as a victim. I actually have a really positive attitude (my upbringing and such had scars and i was a bit negative in my thinking but God came in and changed all of that so i don't know if i should go but I was like the 1st one was so enriching..ill go.) OMG it was what i needed and didn't even know it. We had to introduce ourself with our name and if we had to describe your life story in one word ..only one what would it be and what your grace card (ill tell you more about those later) said that you picked when you came in. so i was like dag..i hate thinking on the spot but i was surprised what word came to mind. It was neglect and my grace card said "Trust-the more we follow our intuition the more we'll find that the right doors open to assist us in fulfilling our life's purpose." WOW! Did i need to hear that. so everyone went around the room and someone said i have an old word and new word and in my mind im like wait we can do that...i want to say my new word. lol! but i didn't. my new word would be journey or discovery or butterfly ( i know more than one word).

Coach Carolyn said whatever your word does your story serve you? She said a story is a reimagined experience or perceived experience narrated with energy & power. Again I'm like WOW! i like that. she said that power illicit an emotion from your listener. So she says if you have a story of loss, grief, trauma you have to tell it till its no longer your story..also retelling it makes it real and you can get clarity and you can release your story. Stories have the ability to 1. offer us hope and 2. keep us victims. There are no victims just volunteers when you allow your story to became a crutch for you. stories are the voice of knowledge.

Our belief systems comes from that. . she said when you're 0-7 years you're like a sponge (good bad indifferent you just receive); at 7 you develop a conscience..you start to form a belief system. adulthood you're operating on those beliefs, we typically don't ask ourselves is this for me? then crisis hits you. then there's trauma (something makes your belief system shift) and you ask yourself what is it i really believe? the story that keeps you stuck, in fear, worried. those story creates stories you don't want. then she goes on to say when you're 17 or 18 we're asked what do you want to do with your life (this is my place where it was just like truth..omg truth) But the better question is what makes your heart sing (she could not have used better words because i was talking to j (my handsome supportive husband) early in the week that i wanted to do something creative that makes my heart sing). She goes on to say that we have to conform and be realistic at 6 or 7 we could be whatever we wanted to be but at 17 or 18 it was time to get real. We don't know how to ask the question did being real work for you (whoever is talking to us).

Im like truth omg! I wanted to be an artist at that age..art is the only constant thing in my life (which i think we've talked about). i think when i was younger art started as a way to escape the anger of my dad and put me in my own world but it became en grained in me then around freshman year my dad was like what are you thinking about doing . I'm like being an artist. hes like there's no money in that you need something secure ..a good job and home (my hopes were dashed). i didn't question it ...he is right so i liked psychology so i began to build dreams around that. Back to Carolyn so shes like sadly a 6 or 7 year old needs to grow up and can no longer express what they want to do...they have to get in a box (i almost wanted to shed a tear cause i never thought about that).

Carolyn has this formula ETFAR (your external events (the thing that happens) causes your Thoughts ..the things that happens in your mind) causes your Feelings (the vibrations that happen in your body) causes Your Actions (what you do in the wld) which lead to Your results (what you see in your world/life)

so she says your E is usually negative experiences which we play over & over again. Example think of a bad movie you saw . u walk out and say it i cant believe i wasted money on this. do you go back to see it a second time..no. but that's what we do with life.. narrate it like a bad movie of our life and even add a soundtrack to it (lol). time to release those stories. get in a place of be then so then have (this is where our values come from).

We need to ask yourself 3 foundational questions: Who am I? What am i here to do? What do I want to have?

My thought process is not that dreaded question of who am i ..i can never answer this...well at this point i could probably name some attributes. my thoughts are interrupted and she said we are divine expressions. job can be taken away. roles can be taken away but we are uniquely wonderfully made (foundational for me because i remember when i first read that in the bible..it made my heart sing) She said we come from a place of divinity. no was created by Jesus or the universe (whatever you believe in) who was bad. we all have a divine assignment . our msg has been given to us to take to the wld. we get caught up and cant deliver our message (im almost felt like she was preaching right there..amen). so she said once i know that im a divine expression i can for m y believe system. what will i not tolerate? (eww another hard question..i know things that shouldn't be tolerated over all but specifically in my life.... that's going to take some pondering). she said we need non-negotiable in order to paint our value system. our new story will have those things .

We need to to begin with the end in mind ..start with the R (in the formula). You can control your R. The E is something that happened but you cant do anything about it. what do you want your life to look like? what are you hear yo do ? (That's the only question i can somewhat answer right now..inspire, create, bring joy & warmth, empower but specifically in what way ) She says imagine your new story ..in technicolor put a soundtrack to it. all the details..who do you want apart of it? who do you need to let go of it (toxic people). To know your story you can take those inspired actions to make it happen. feelings of peace, joy, gratitude. what we agree to comes true for us! it's time to make a new agreement!

We are ourselves so when i begin to tell a new story i agree with it. it becomes true. some of us don't know the real us..if we did we wouldn't tell the stories we tell..we carry things that no longer have anything to do with is.. make a conscious decision to let it go. you are a powerful creator. one way i create is through my story. it can be + pr -. only thing that grows is what you give energy too (truth). if you keep attracting the same thing thats the energy you';re putting out. no more if its -. the story we carry around serve us for some reason or we would have let it ho. so she challenged us to go home write out our story. get out a cup of tea and our journal. there might be things we are nor away of and go back to that story and circle all the emotional charged words. get a sheet of paper ..fold it one side those words the other side the opposite.. from these words create a new story, make an agreement. what u agree comes true for u. action is needed you need to take inspired action. leave how out of your vocabulary. once you fear you get stuck. we hear when God closes one door he opens another bit so often we concentrate so much on the closed door we don't notice the open (truth again..scream) the close door is safe and what we know even though we don't want it but your new story is through that window. we fear the window..but its for your growth and good. be open. recognize obstacles that come your way r disguised as opportunities. thats how we miss it.see it for the opportunity that is is. she said a quote by Michael somebody. if you begin each day as a grand adventure then you become a candidate of revelation (love it). take some action on your own soundtrack. one of the worst things you want is to have regrets. show up for yourself there's a story to release. take something and make it an intention.

Becoming A Women of Purpose

So one of my top inspirational life forces is Coach Carolyn and she has a Becoming A Women Of Purpose website: http://spiritwomen.blogspot.com/

I came across Coach Carolyn through one of the meetups late last year I signed up for and her intro to the group is listed below:

A spiritual gathering of women in a sacred space to share life, laughter, joy and friendships on the journey to inner peace, passion and purpose.
If you are a woman making a life transition from brokenness to wholeness; from chaos to commitment; from pain to purpose, then this gathering is for you.
Come for two and a half hours to encourage and empower others while being encouraged and empowered yourself. Bring a journal.


This intro spoke to because one of things I hope I am doing in life is encouraging the ones I love and I love to have a deeper connection with my friends in terms of a sisterhood that empowers, encourages, supports, and prays for one another and the three p's (peace, passion, and purpose) Coach Carolyn talked about is exactly the direction i want my life to go in. I've gone to two meetups so far and they have been absolutely awesome. I have been blessed so much by Coach Carolyn for providing this welcoming beautiful platform. This year I will definitely be attending more meetups with this group. I follow her everyday through her daily blog so you will hear me talk about how her posts relate to me.

Ephesians 3:20-21 Decade

I received the following devotional from Joel and Victoria on Feb. 2nd that blessed my spirit.

Far and Beyond

"Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever"(Ephesians 3:20-21, NAS)
TODAY'S WORD from Joel and Victoria
I feel strongly in my spirit that it’s going to be an Ephesians 3:20 decade! God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above and beyond all we can imagine! Let that take root on the inside. It’s going to be a far and beyond decade. Here’s what that means: you’re going to come into opportunities that will boggle your mind. You’re going to see your career take off like a rocket. You’re going to meet the right people who will help further your dreams. You’re going to accomplish goals more quickly than you imagined. You’re going to come out of debt and pay that house off even though it looked impossible. You’re going to get well even though the medical report says there’s no way. Things may be dark and gloomy around you, but keep your head held high. You have an advantage. You are a child of the Most High God. His face is shining down on you. God is saying it’s not going to be an average decade. It’s not going to be a barely-get-by decade. No, you need to get ready because it’s going to be a decade of favor, a decade of increase, a decade where you accomplish your God-given dreams!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY
Father, thank You for an exceedingly abundantly above and beyond decade. I choose to put my trust in You knowing that You are directing my steps. Thank You for the good things You have in store for me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

I knew 2010 would be an amazing year I just didn't know how amazing until I read this and immediately I knew it is going to be a 3:20 decade. Praise God! Already in this year: my spiritual life is strong as its ever been in a long time; I found a church home in CityLight; my relationship with my husband continues to be more passionate and amazing; $500 bonus from my boss; found a reasonable priced hairdresser in NYC; and lost 15 lbs. I cant wait to see what God will continue to do in my life this year.