Since I've missed a couple of postings under this topic I'm going to take care of two weeks in one post. All I can say about both of these items is TRUTH! Let's begin to step out onto the things we are called to do. There are no limitations except the one we put on yourself.
Week of March 28th:
The Greatest Failure!
Debbi Fields of Mrs. Fields Cookies once said, "The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. Remember, the greatest failure is to not try. Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it."
The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
It does not matter if you fail; there is no failure, only feedback. And the only one who can say you failed is you. But what happens if you never even try?
Just for today, take a chance and do your best.
Leading Lady or Supporting Actor?
To lead is difficult when you're a follower of fear.” ~ T.A. Sachs
One of my favorite movies is The Holiday. It has some great lines, one of which says that while you are the leading lady in your life, you behave like the best friend – another words, you are living life like you are a supporting character in your own life.If this is your story, then it is time to start writing a new script. To be a leading lady means you lead with conviction and courage, not following fear and doubt. One way to tell if you are the supporting character in your life instead of the leading lady is to look at what is showing up in your life.
Are you getting vague, murky, and unclear messages, then STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:“What message am I sending out to the universe?”
Then, notice what you are saying and reacting to. Are your words filled with power and conviction, or are they weak and filled with fear?What you give is what you get back.
Week of April 5th
Feel Pure Joy!
If your dominant intent is to feel joy while you are doing the work, your triad of intentions — freedom, growth and joy — will come quickly and easily into alignment. See your "career" as one of creating a joyful life experience. You are not a creator of things or a regurgitator of what someone else has created or a gatherer of stuff. You are a creator, and the subject of your creation is your joyful life experience. That is your mission. That is your quest. That is why you are here.” ~ Abraham
I love this! Your life purpose is an experience, not simply to toil or accumulate stuff. When you are experiencing joy and freedom and passion, your “work” falls in alignment with those feelings. Then, it does not feel like work or toil, but joy and you don’t know where the time goes.
You were created to inspire, dream, empower, love, ignite, or you fill in the blank. You are a creator and you can create anything you desire. So why don’t you?
Fear. Simple as that.
So, just for today… dream BIG! What do you truly desire? Feel what it would be like to have. Continue that feeling for a solid 17 seconds. Then another… then another… then another. You have created 68 seconds of pure high vibrational thinking! That’s HUGE! Not negative thinking, or regurgitated thinking, but pure thinking!
While you are in this high vibrational space, be grateful and smile!
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Showing posts with label Becoming A Women of Purpose. Show all posts
Friday's Purposeful Question-April 9th
Today's post from Coach Carolyn stated:
“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
"It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis." ~ Margaret Bonanno
"The pleasure which we most rarely experience gives us greatest delight." ~ Epictetus
"I wake up every morning with a great desire to live joyfully." ~ Anna Howard Shaw
“Are you living a happy life?” Why or why not?
If you are not, all you need to do is make the decision that you want to live a happy life – then go live it!
I'm living a blessed life. The reason I would say I'm not leading a happy life is leading a happy life i think it means to live an authentic life. I'm just figuring out what that means to me so until I'm living authentically on a regular basis I'm not entirely happy.
“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
"It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis." ~ Margaret Bonanno
"The pleasure which we most rarely experience gives us greatest delight." ~ Epictetus
"I wake up every morning with a great desire to live joyfully." ~ Anna Howard Shaw
“Are you living a happy life?” Why or why not?
If you are not, all you need to do is make the decision that you want to live a happy life – then go live it!
I'm living a blessed life. The reason I would say I'm not leading a happy life is leading a happy life i think it means to live an authentic life. I'm just figuring out what that means to me so until I'm living authentically on a regular basis I'm not entirely happy.
Coach Carolyn messages that spoke to me this week-week of March 21st
This week there was no Friday's purposeful question but a weekend point to ponder which happened to be one of my favorite messages from Coach this week:
Weekend Point To Ponder
“Your close relationships are either a catalyst for manifesting what you really want, or they’re a hindrance to your manifestation. If you truly value the power of love in your life, you owe it to yourself to discover how to tap into the power of your relationship as a force for manifestation.” ~ Drs. Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks
Remember, you are the average of your five closest friends.
How does that make you feel?
Make it a manifesting weekend!Coach Carolyn
I love that quote! I thinks its 'interesting that I am the average of five of my closest friends..that means I'm beautiful, creative, encouraging, bold, sexy, intelligent, fun, goal-oriented, sensitive funny and a great mother (much later:) because that's what my five closest sisters represent. How I love them! Kia, Carey, Kym, Jackie, and Amanda rock!
How Confident Are You? “When you are unsure of yourself, remember that you can always borrow a self-confident attitude from your authentic self. If we act as if we’re confident, we become so.” ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
One of the stumbling blocks to being confident is fear. I have spoken quite a bit on this blog about fears and how they keep us from living a passionate and purposeful life. Fears block our confidence. Just imagine the things you would try if fear did not limit you.
A building block to living a confident life is gratitude, again an old friend of this blog. Living in an attitude of gratitude opens the door to abundance giving you the confidence to live a life free of negativity.
To be a confident woman, you must make the conscious choice to not attend every pity party, anger-fest, and offensive gathering that you are invited to. Just say, “Thank you for sharing; I choose not to receive that.” And move on. No need to give further explanation; which only leads to further confrontation.
We were given an awesome power – the power to choose. Yet, sometimes we do not exercise that power wisely. Stopping is a spiritual action. When we are in the midst of a major or even a not so major decision, stop, take a breath, and then choose. And remember, making no choice, is also a choice.
Make the choice to live an amazing and confident life.Coach Carolyn
All I can say here is truth and I need to start doing that more. Thank you for sharing; I choose not to receive that. It sure would make alot more sense of what I allow into my spirit and head.
Friday's Purposeful Question
Today's posting said:
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
“When was the last time you just let something go without taking it personally?”
“A prudent question is one half of wisdom.” ~ Francis Bacon
Sadly, I can't remember the last time I let something go without taking it personally. I have a spirit of offense that I really need to work on especially when it comes to my hubby. I take everything to heart and its not good to live in my emotions because they can lead me astray. For example, it doesn't matter what was said. It's the emotion that was felt when the words fell on my ears and heart that totally restructures the sentence in my mind. Not a good place to be, So thanks to Coach Carolyn about reminding me about a "flaw" I need to work on.
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
“When was the last time you just let something go without taking it personally?”
“A prudent question is one half of wisdom.” ~ Francis Bacon
Sadly, I can't remember the last time I let something go without taking it personally. I have a spirit of offense that I really need to work on especially when it comes to my hubby. I take everything to heart and its not good to live in my emotions because they can lead me astray. For example, it doesn't matter what was said. It's the emotion that was felt when the words fell on my ears and heart that totally restructures the sentence in my mind. Not a good place to be, So thanks to Coach Carolyn about reminding me about a "flaw" I need to work on.
Coach Carolyn messages- that spoke to me wk of march 15th
Thus far this week I've found two messages from Coach Carolyn that spoke truth to my spirit:
Think You Can... Think You Can't
I want to share a great message from author and teacher Mary Manin Morrissey. Enjoy!
Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can or you think you can't, you are right.” This is a very powerful statement but what's really powerful is when we practice remembering its power.
When we find ourselves thinking, "Oh I never have been able to" or "I can't" or "I used to be able to but now I can't", we are actually reinforcing a limitation. Our thinking is a gift from God and when we think in constriction we have cut ourselves off from God's power to give us ideas where the solutions can be found.
To tap into Universal power, we need to think into the solution. Just start by saying to yourself, “If I could do this, how might it work?” What ideas are there for how it could happen?
Let's remember what Henry Ford said and practice it today. If you think you can or you think you can't, you get to be right. So let's be right in thinking that it can be done. There is a solution and we can access it.
Just for today, think you CAN!
Coach Carolyn
This message is so true. We are the only ones putting limits on ourselves. What a point Coach Carolyn made when she said "Our thinking is a gift from God and when we think in constriction we have cut ourselves off from God's power to give us ideas where the solutions can be found. " Truth!!! The only limitations we have is what we put on ourselves. God didnt say let me tell you what is attainable. Anything is attaintable as long as its God's minded so why not reach out and up for the unexpeceted and the outrageous.
Everything Is Not About You!
In a recent class I am teaching, we were discussing our emotions and in particular, anger. One of the students mentioned that it is so hard not to get angry when someone says or does something to offend us. I quickly mentioned Don Miguel Ruiz’ The Four Agreements. Surprising, many of them had never heard of the book. Although, this should come as no surprise, considering how people show up in the world – totally offended, feeling betrayed, being hurt, getting slighted in some way.Now, I am not negating that these can all be very hurtful experiences, but you cannot allow that to rule your life.Don’t Take Anything PersonallyRemember, nothing anyone else does is about you; it is a reflection of their own drama. If you choose to make it about you, then on some level you are agreeing with their assumptions. And yes, that is a choice. We live in a very narcissistic society where we think everything is about us. Well, it’s not! The only things that are about us, are the things we sign up for. So, if we sign up for someone else’s drama and negative behavior, then it becomes our drama and negativity.I choose to write my own story and leave the drama on the cutting room floor! When I want drama, I am creative enough to come up with some drama that will serve me – like getting knocked to the ground by Richard Armitage! Hell, I have gotten knocked to the ground before, it wasn’t fun and I was sore for days after. I did laugh about it after. But had that been Richard Armitage, well! I can come up with a least a dozen different scenarios about how that would have ended up! He he!So, just for today, stop taking everything so personally – even if it has your name on it!Coach Carolyn
This was such a hard lesson for me to learn and I'm still trying to perfect not to be offended especially with my hubby. He has so many wonderful traits but one of them i love/hate is his brutal honestly. Its help me climb above many issues and refreshing but at other times its like could you have told me but sugarcoated it. I'm uber sensitive so i quickly get offended. But I cant remember where I heard this from but the person said you can be called by many names but its what you answer too. What you identity with. Truth!
Think You Can... Think You Can't
I want to share a great message from author and teacher Mary Manin Morrissey. Enjoy!
Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can or you think you can't, you are right.” This is a very powerful statement but what's really powerful is when we practice remembering its power.
When we find ourselves thinking, "Oh I never have been able to" or "I can't" or "I used to be able to but now I can't", we are actually reinforcing a limitation. Our thinking is a gift from God and when we think in constriction we have cut ourselves off from God's power to give us ideas where the solutions can be found.
To tap into Universal power, we need to think into the solution. Just start by saying to yourself, “If I could do this, how might it work?” What ideas are there for how it could happen?
Let's remember what Henry Ford said and practice it today. If you think you can or you think you can't, you get to be right. So let's be right in thinking that it can be done. There is a solution and we can access it.
Just for today, think you CAN!
Coach Carolyn
This message is so true. We are the only ones putting limits on ourselves. What a point Coach Carolyn made when she said "Our thinking is a gift from God and when we think in constriction we have cut ourselves off from God's power to give us ideas where the solutions can be found. " Truth!!! The only limitations we have is what we put on ourselves. God didnt say let me tell you what is attainable. Anything is attaintable as long as its God's minded so why not reach out and up for the unexpeceted and the outrageous.
Everything Is Not About You!
In a recent class I am teaching, we were discussing our emotions and in particular, anger. One of the students mentioned that it is so hard not to get angry when someone says or does something to offend us. I quickly mentioned Don Miguel Ruiz’ The Four Agreements. Surprising, many of them had never heard of the book. Although, this should come as no surprise, considering how people show up in the world – totally offended, feeling betrayed, being hurt, getting slighted in some way.Now, I am not negating that these can all be very hurtful experiences, but you cannot allow that to rule your life.Don’t Take Anything PersonallyRemember, nothing anyone else does is about you; it is a reflection of their own drama. If you choose to make it about you, then on some level you are agreeing with their assumptions. And yes, that is a choice. We live in a very narcissistic society where we think everything is about us. Well, it’s not! The only things that are about us, are the things we sign up for. So, if we sign up for someone else’s drama and negative behavior, then it becomes our drama and negativity.I choose to write my own story and leave the drama on the cutting room floor! When I want drama, I am creative enough to come up with some drama that will serve me – like getting knocked to the ground by Richard Armitage! Hell, I have gotten knocked to the ground before, it wasn’t fun and I was sore for days after. I did laugh about it after. But had that been Richard Armitage, well! I can come up with a least a dozen different scenarios about how that would have ended up! He he!So, just for today, stop taking everything so personally – even if it has your name on it!Coach Carolyn
This was such a hard lesson for me to learn and I'm still trying to perfect not to be offended especially with my hubby. He has so many wonderful traits but one of them i love/hate is his brutal honestly. Its help me climb above many issues and refreshing but at other times its like could you have told me but sugarcoated it. I'm uber sensitive so i quickly get offended. But I cant remember where I heard this from but the person said you can be called by many names but its what you answer too. What you identity with. Truth!
Dare to Dream
The below is a posting from Coach Carolyn website from last week that made an impact on me: I'll let you read it and then comment later
Dare to Dream...Then Dare to Act
"Don't let go of your dreams. If you have determination and belief in your dreams, you will succeed in spite of your desire to let go.” ~ Catherine Pulsifer
A man lay on his bed at the end of his life waiting to die.His dream came to pay his last respects and bid farewell to the man who had never used it.As it entered the room the man looked down in shame.
"Why did you not realize me?" the dream asked.
"Because I was afraid," the man said.
"Afraid of what," said the dream.
"I was afraid I would fail."
"But haven't you failed by not attempting to use me?"
"Yes I did, but I always thought there would be tomorrow."
"You Fool!" said the dream. “Did it never occur to you that there was only ever today; the moment that you are in right now? Do you think that now that death is here that you can put it off until tomorrow?"
"No," said the man, a tear gently rolling down his cheek.
The dream was softer now. It knew there were two types of pain: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret; and while discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs pounds.Then the dream leaned forward to gently wipe away the tear and said, "You need only have taken the first step and I would have taken one to meet you, for the only thing that ever separated us was the belief in your mind that you couldn't have me.”
Then they said goodbye and they both died.
~ Anonymous
"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it." ~ Goethe
Dare to live your dreams!
When I read about this it made me think of something I read before: "Don't die with the music still inside of you." What a story! How many of us die with our dreams inside because we didn't take the first step. For all of those out here who know what their dream is and haven't made a step forward due to fear or not knowing where to start or for financial reasons. Just start no matter how small. God will let you know if you are on the right path and tell you how to proceed ahead. As for me, sadly to say I don't know what my dream is ..what God has purposed for me but I am to keep forging ahead on this road of empowerment and encouragement because I have a feeling this may be part of it. I'm not going to give up until I find my dream because every journey starts with a single step.
Dare to Dream...Then Dare to Act
"Don't let go of your dreams. If you have determination and belief in your dreams, you will succeed in spite of your desire to let go.” ~ Catherine Pulsifer
A man lay on his bed at the end of his life waiting to die.His dream came to pay his last respects and bid farewell to the man who had never used it.As it entered the room the man looked down in shame.
"Why did you not realize me?" the dream asked.
"Because I was afraid," the man said.
"Afraid of what," said the dream.
"I was afraid I would fail."
"But haven't you failed by not attempting to use me?"
"Yes I did, but I always thought there would be tomorrow."
"You Fool!" said the dream. “Did it never occur to you that there was only ever today; the moment that you are in right now? Do you think that now that death is here that you can put it off until tomorrow?"
"No," said the man, a tear gently rolling down his cheek.
The dream was softer now. It knew there were two types of pain: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret; and while discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs pounds.Then the dream leaned forward to gently wipe away the tear and said, "You need only have taken the first step and I would have taken one to meet you, for the only thing that ever separated us was the belief in your mind that you couldn't have me.”
Then they said goodbye and they both died.
~ Anonymous
"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it." ~ Goethe
Dare to live your dreams!
When I read about this it made me think of something I read before: "Don't die with the music still inside of you." What a story! How many of us die with our dreams inside because we didn't take the first step. For all of those out here who know what their dream is and haven't made a step forward due to fear or not knowing where to start or for financial reasons. Just start no matter how small. God will let you know if you are on the right path and tell you how to proceed ahead. As for me, sadly to say I don't know what my dream is ..what God has purposed for me but I am to keep forging ahead on this road of empowerment and encouragement because I have a feeling this may be part of it. I'm not going to give up until I find my dream because every journey starts with a single step.
Friday's Purposeful Question
Coach Carolyn has a question every Friday called Friday's Purposeful Question so this Friday's Purposeful Question said:
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
“What’s the story you tell everyday?”
“You can tell whether a woman is clever by her answers. You can tell whether she is wise by her questions.” ~ attributed to Naguib Mahfouz
Oh Coach Carolyn why do you stump me? I hope the story I tell everyday is one of joy and encouragement. I'm a "smiley person" so I hope that my energy is rubbing off on the people I come across and I become God's hands on the earth.
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
“What’s the story you tell everyday?”
“You can tell whether a woman is clever by her answers. You can tell whether she is wise by her questions.” ~ attributed to Naguib Mahfouz
Oh Coach Carolyn why do you stump me? I hope the story I tell everyday is one of joy and encouragement. I'm a "smiley person" so I hope that my energy is rubbing off on the people I come across and I become God's hands on the earth.
2nd Meetup of the Year
I was so looking forward to this meetup especially since the last one hyped me up and honestly I haven't done anything with it but when i woke up Sat with a scratchy throat and dizziness I wasn't sure i was going to make it but I thought I would at least push through and start my day as planned (gym, womens group, another meetup group activity). But after the gym I felt worse body aches, chills. etc so needless to say I missed the meetup:(
Create Your New Story
In order to release an old limiting story, you need to replace it with a new empowering one.
So, let's create a new story! It can be as big as you want it to be; but it must be truly believable and authentic for you - or you won't live into it.
Bring your journals and along with guided meditations, I will guide you into creating your new story
Create Your New Story
In order to release an old limiting story, you need to replace it with a new empowering one.
So, let's create a new story! It can be as big as you want it to be; but it must be truly believable and authentic for you - or you won't live into it.
Bring your journals and along with guided meditations, I will guide you into creating your new story
1st Meetup of the Year
The first meetup of the new year (2nd meetup for this group) I attended for Becoming A Women of Purpose was held on Feb. 13th. The below was the intro.
Change Your Story, Change Your Life
What's your story?
If you are sticking with your victim story; your story of drama and lack, then don't be surprised if you see more of that in your life.
Yes, horrible things happen in our lives. Yet, we must process it appropriately so that we can grow and move on from it.
When we are dealing with a devastating tragedy or trauma, we need to tell our story until it isn't our story anymore.
That is when we can write a new story -- a new story of peace, forgiveness, wholeness and faith. This will be the story that we live out.
Come and write your new stories! Bring your journals - I will supply the pens!
Initially when i saw this intro i sigh and was thinking i don't see myself as a victim. I actually have a really positive attitude (my upbringing and such had scars and i was a bit negative in my thinking but God came in and changed all of that so i don't know if i should go but I was like the 1st one was so enriching..ill go.) OMG it was what i needed and didn't even know it. We had to introduce ourself with our name and if we had to describe your life story in one word ..only one what would it be and what your grace card (ill tell you more about those later) said that you picked when you came in. so i was like dag..i hate thinking on the spot but i was surprised what word came to mind. It was neglect and my grace card said "Trust-the more we follow our intuition the more we'll find that the right doors open to assist us in fulfilling our life's purpose." WOW! Did i need to hear that. so everyone went around the room and someone said i have an old word and new word and in my mind im like wait we can do that...i want to say my new word. lol! but i didn't. my new word would be journey or discovery or butterfly ( i know more than one word).
Coach Carolyn said whatever your word does your story serve you? She said a story is a reimagined experience or perceived experience narrated with energy & power. Again I'm like WOW! i like that. she said that power illicit an emotion from your listener. So she says if you have a story of loss, grief, trauma you have to tell it till its no longer your story..also retelling it makes it real and you can get clarity and you can release your story. Stories have the ability to 1. offer us hope and 2. keep us victims. There are no victims just volunteers when you allow your story to became a crutch for you. stories are the voice of knowledge.
Our belief systems comes from that. . she said when you're 0-7 years you're like a sponge (good bad indifferent you just receive); at 7 you develop a conscience..you start to form a belief system. adulthood you're operating on those beliefs, we typically don't ask ourselves is this for me? then crisis hits you. then there's trauma (something makes your belief system shift) and you ask yourself what is it i really believe? the story that keeps you stuck, in fear, worried. those story creates stories you don't want. then she goes on to say when you're 17 or 18 we're asked what do you want to do with your life (this is my place where it was just like truth..omg truth) But the better question is what makes your heart sing (she could not have used better words because i was talking to j (my handsome supportive husband) early in the week that i wanted to do something creative that makes my heart sing). She goes on to say that we have to conform and be realistic at 6 or 7 we could be whatever we wanted to be but at 17 or 18 it was time to get real. We don't know how to ask the question did being real work for you (whoever is talking to us).
Im like truth omg! I wanted to be an artist at that age..art is the only constant thing in my life (which i think we've talked about). i think when i was younger art started as a way to escape the anger of my dad and put me in my own world but it became en grained in me then around freshman year my dad was like what are you thinking about doing . I'm like being an artist. hes like there's no money in that you need something secure ..a good job and home (my hopes were dashed). i didn't question it ...he is right so i liked psychology so i began to build dreams around that. Back to Carolyn so shes like sadly a 6 or 7 year old needs to grow up and can no longer express what they want to do...they have to get in a box (i almost wanted to shed a tear cause i never thought about that).
Carolyn has this formula ETFAR (your external events (the thing that happens) causes your Thoughts ..the things that happens in your mind) causes your Feelings (the vibrations that happen in your body) causes Your Actions (what you do in the wld) which lead to Your results (what you see in your world/life)
so she says your E is usually negative experiences which we play over & over again. Example think of a bad movie you saw . u walk out and say it i cant believe i wasted money on this. do you go back to see it a second time..no. but that's what we do with life.. narrate it like a bad movie of our life and even add a soundtrack to it (lol). time to release those stories. get in a place of be then so then have (this is where our values come from).
We need to ask yourself 3 foundational questions: Who am I? What am i here to do? What do I want to have?
My thought process is not that dreaded question of who am i ..i can never answer this...well at this point i could probably name some attributes. my thoughts are interrupted and she said we are divine expressions. job can be taken away. roles can be taken away but we are uniquely wonderfully made (foundational for me because i remember when i first read that in the bible..it made my heart sing) She said we come from a place of divinity. no was created by Jesus or the universe (whatever you believe in) who was bad. we all have a divine assignment . our msg has been given to us to take to the wld. we get caught up and cant deliver our message (im almost felt like she was preaching right there..amen). so she said once i know that im a divine expression i can for m y believe system. what will i not tolerate? (eww another hard question..i know things that shouldn't be tolerated over all but specifically in my life.... that's going to take some pondering). she said we need non-negotiable in order to paint our value system. our new story will have those things .
We need to to begin with the end in mind ..start with the R (in the formula). You can control your R. The E is something that happened but you cant do anything about it. what do you want your life to look like? what are you hear yo do ? (That's the only question i can somewhat answer right now..inspire, create, bring joy & warmth, empower but specifically in what way ) She says imagine your new story ..in technicolor put a soundtrack to it. all the details..who do you want apart of it? who do you need to let go of it (toxic people). To know your story you can take those inspired actions to make it happen. feelings of peace, joy, gratitude. what we agree to comes true for us! it's time to make a new agreement!
We are ourselves so when i begin to tell a new story i agree with it. it becomes true. some of us don't know the real us..if we did we wouldn't tell the stories we tell..we carry things that no longer have anything to do with is.. make a conscious decision to let it go. you are a powerful creator. one way i create is through my story. it can be + pr -. only thing that grows is what you give energy too (truth). if you keep attracting the same thing thats the energy you';re putting out. no more if its -. the story we carry around serve us for some reason or we would have let it ho. so she challenged us to go home write out our story. get out a cup of tea and our journal. there might be things we are nor away of and go back to that story and circle all the emotional charged words. get a sheet of paper ..fold it one side those words the other side the opposite.. from these words create a new story, make an agreement. what u agree comes true for u. action is needed you need to take inspired action. leave how out of your vocabulary. once you fear you get stuck. we hear when God closes one door he opens another bit so often we concentrate so much on the closed door we don't notice the open (truth again..scream) the close door is safe and what we know even though we don't want it but your new story is through that window. we fear the window..but its for your growth and good. be open. recognize obstacles that come your way r disguised as opportunities. thats how we miss it.see it for the opportunity that is is. she said a quote by Michael somebody. if you begin each day as a grand adventure then you become a candidate of revelation (love it). take some action on your own soundtrack. one of the worst things you want is to have regrets. show up for yourself there's a story to release. take something and make it an intention.
Change Your Story, Change Your Life
What's your story?
If you are sticking with your victim story; your story of drama and lack, then don't be surprised if you see more of that in your life.
Yes, horrible things happen in our lives. Yet, we must process it appropriately so that we can grow and move on from it.
When we are dealing with a devastating tragedy or trauma, we need to tell our story until it isn't our story anymore.
That is when we can write a new story -- a new story of peace, forgiveness, wholeness and faith. This will be the story that we live out.
Come and write your new stories! Bring your journals - I will supply the pens!
Initially when i saw this intro i sigh and was thinking i don't see myself as a victim. I actually have a really positive attitude (my upbringing and such had scars and i was a bit negative in my thinking but God came in and changed all of that so i don't know if i should go but I was like the 1st one was so enriching..ill go.) OMG it was what i needed and didn't even know it. We had to introduce ourself with our name and if we had to describe your life story in one word ..only one what would it be and what your grace card (ill tell you more about those later) said that you picked when you came in. so i was like dag..i hate thinking on the spot but i was surprised what word came to mind. It was neglect and my grace card said "Trust-the more we follow our intuition the more we'll find that the right doors open to assist us in fulfilling our life's purpose." WOW! Did i need to hear that. so everyone went around the room and someone said i have an old word and new word and in my mind im like wait we can do that...i want to say my new word. lol! but i didn't. my new word would be journey or discovery or butterfly ( i know more than one word).
Coach Carolyn said whatever your word does your story serve you? She said a story is a reimagined experience or perceived experience narrated with energy & power. Again I'm like WOW! i like that. she said that power illicit an emotion from your listener. So she says if you have a story of loss, grief, trauma you have to tell it till its no longer your story..also retelling it makes it real and you can get clarity and you can release your story. Stories have the ability to 1. offer us hope and 2. keep us victims. There are no victims just volunteers when you allow your story to became a crutch for you. stories are the voice of knowledge.
Our belief systems comes from that. . she said when you're 0-7 years you're like a sponge (good bad indifferent you just receive); at 7 you develop a conscience..you start to form a belief system. adulthood you're operating on those beliefs, we typically don't ask ourselves is this for me? then crisis hits you. then there's trauma (something makes your belief system shift) and you ask yourself what is it i really believe? the story that keeps you stuck, in fear, worried. those story creates stories you don't want. then she goes on to say when you're 17 or 18 we're asked what do you want to do with your life (this is my place where it was just like truth..omg truth) But the better question is what makes your heart sing (she could not have used better words because i was talking to j (my handsome supportive husband) early in the week that i wanted to do something creative that makes my heart sing). She goes on to say that we have to conform and be realistic at 6 or 7 we could be whatever we wanted to be but at 17 or 18 it was time to get real. We don't know how to ask the question did being real work for you (whoever is talking to us).
Im like truth omg! I wanted to be an artist at that age..art is the only constant thing in my life (which i think we've talked about). i think when i was younger art started as a way to escape the anger of my dad and put me in my own world but it became en grained in me then around freshman year my dad was like what are you thinking about doing . I'm like being an artist. hes like there's no money in that you need something secure ..a good job and home (my hopes were dashed). i didn't question it ...he is right so i liked psychology so i began to build dreams around that. Back to Carolyn so shes like sadly a 6 or 7 year old needs to grow up and can no longer express what they want to do...they have to get in a box (i almost wanted to shed a tear cause i never thought about that).
Carolyn has this formula ETFAR (your external events (the thing that happens) causes your Thoughts ..the things that happens in your mind) causes your Feelings (the vibrations that happen in your body) causes Your Actions (what you do in the wld) which lead to Your results (what you see in your world/life)
so she says your E is usually negative experiences which we play over & over again. Example think of a bad movie you saw . u walk out and say it i cant believe i wasted money on this. do you go back to see it a second time..no. but that's what we do with life.. narrate it like a bad movie of our life and even add a soundtrack to it (lol). time to release those stories. get in a place of be then so then have (this is where our values come from).
We need to ask yourself 3 foundational questions: Who am I? What am i here to do? What do I want to have?
My thought process is not that dreaded question of who am i ..i can never answer this...well at this point i could probably name some attributes. my thoughts are interrupted and she said we are divine expressions. job can be taken away. roles can be taken away but we are uniquely wonderfully made (foundational for me because i remember when i first read that in the bible..it made my heart sing) She said we come from a place of divinity. no was created by Jesus or the universe (whatever you believe in) who was bad. we all have a divine assignment . our msg has been given to us to take to the wld. we get caught up and cant deliver our message (im almost felt like she was preaching right there..amen). so she said once i know that im a divine expression i can for m y believe system. what will i not tolerate? (eww another hard question..i know things that shouldn't be tolerated over all but specifically in my life.... that's going to take some pondering). she said we need non-negotiable in order to paint our value system. our new story will have those things .
We need to to begin with the end in mind ..start with the R (in the formula). You can control your R. The E is something that happened but you cant do anything about it. what do you want your life to look like? what are you hear yo do ? (That's the only question i can somewhat answer right now..inspire, create, bring joy & warmth, empower but specifically in what way ) She says imagine your new story ..in technicolor put a soundtrack to it. all the details..who do you want apart of it? who do you need to let go of it (toxic people). To know your story you can take those inspired actions to make it happen. feelings of peace, joy, gratitude. what we agree to comes true for us! it's time to make a new agreement!
We are ourselves so when i begin to tell a new story i agree with it. it becomes true. some of us don't know the real us..if we did we wouldn't tell the stories we tell..we carry things that no longer have anything to do with is.. make a conscious decision to let it go. you are a powerful creator. one way i create is through my story. it can be + pr -. only thing that grows is what you give energy too (truth). if you keep attracting the same thing thats the energy you';re putting out. no more if its -. the story we carry around serve us for some reason or we would have let it ho. so she challenged us to go home write out our story. get out a cup of tea and our journal. there might be things we are nor away of and go back to that story and circle all the emotional charged words. get a sheet of paper ..fold it one side those words the other side the opposite.. from these words create a new story, make an agreement. what u agree comes true for u. action is needed you need to take inspired action. leave how out of your vocabulary. once you fear you get stuck. we hear when God closes one door he opens another bit so often we concentrate so much on the closed door we don't notice the open (truth again..scream) the close door is safe and what we know even though we don't want it but your new story is through that window. we fear the window..but its for your growth and good. be open. recognize obstacles that come your way r disguised as opportunities. thats how we miss it.see it for the opportunity that is is. she said a quote by Michael somebody. if you begin each day as a grand adventure then you become a candidate of revelation (love it). take some action on your own soundtrack. one of the worst things you want is to have regrets. show up for yourself there's a story to release. take something and make it an intention.
Becoming A Women of Purpose
So one of my top inspirational life forces is Coach Carolyn and she has a Becoming A Women Of Purpose website: http://spiritwomen.blogspot.com/
I came across Coach Carolyn through one of the meetups late last year I signed up for and her intro to the group is listed below:
A spiritual gathering of women in a sacred space to share life, laughter, joy and friendships on the journey to inner peace, passion and purpose.
If you are a woman making a life transition from brokenness to wholeness; from chaos to commitment; from pain to purpose, then this gathering is for you.
Come for two and a half hours to encourage and empower others while being encouraged and empowered yourself. Bring a journal.
This intro spoke to because one of things I hope I am doing in life is encouraging the ones I love and I love to have a deeper connection with my friends in terms of a sisterhood that empowers, encourages, supports, and prays for one another and the three p's (peace, passion, and purpose) Coach Carolyn talked about is exactly the direction i want my life to go in. I've gone to two meetups so far and they have been absolutely awesome. I have been blessed so much by Coach Carolyn for providing this welcoming beautiful platform. This year I will definitely be attending more meetups with this group. I follow her everyday through her daily blog so you will hear me talk about how her posts relate to me.
I came across Coach Carolyn through one of the meetups late last year I signed up for and her intro to the group is listed below:
A spiritual gathering of women in a sacred space to share life, laughter, joy and friendships on the journey to inner peace, passion and purpose.
If you are a woman making a life transition from brokenness to wholeness; from chaos to commitment; from pain to purpose, then this gathering is for you.
Come for two and a half hours to encourage and empower others while being encouraged and empowered yourself. Bring a journal.
This intro spoke to because one of things I hope I am doing in life is encouraging the ones I love and I love to have a deeper connection with my friends in terms of a sisterhood that empowers, encourages, supports, and prays for one another and the three p's (peace, passion, and purpose) Coach Carolyn talked about is exactly the direction i want my life to go in. I've gone to two meetups so far and they have been absolutely awesome. I have been blessed so much by Coach Carolyn for providing this welcoming beautiful platform. This year I will definitely be attending more meetups with this group. I follow her everyday through her daily blog so you will hear me talk about how her posts relate to me.
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